How to tell them the tragic news?

"Gee" <Gee RemoveThis @canttellya.com> wrote in message news:t2ljc.1$yA.0@newsfe1-win...
> Hi, I need some urgent advice please.
>
> About 10 days ago I saw a beautiful cat get run over and took it to
> emergency vet. The cat unfortunately died probably immediately. She had no
> ID tags/microchip so we were unable to contact the owner, but I told the
> local vets in case anyone enquires.
>
> However, I went out tonight and found the posters about a lost cat and it
is
> the beautiful one I saw run over. I couldn;t bring myself to call the
owners
> with such news at 2am, so will call them tomorrow.
>
> So, the question is, how do I tell the owners? They obviously loved this
> cat, and will be gobsmecked when they hear the news. Do I tell them over
the
> phone or ask them to meet me locally(we seem to be in same neighborhood)
> then tell them? Would that sound strange to them? I would also hate them
to
> think that I was the one to run her over, when I just tried to help. I
know
> I know I am being paranoid, but I hate to bring this people such pain. I
> lost my QT the same way 5 years ago, and I know how I felt for years
after.
> I know I can;t make it any easier for the owners, I just don't want them
to
> get a heart attack or something.
>
> What would you do? Please write ASAP, as I must call them tomorrow(later
> today - it's now 5am here).
>
> Thanks for any advice
>
> Gee
>


Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.

Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck. You can
wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from school.
Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.

First tell them it was one of the kids.

--Geno
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"Gene Royer" <Siregeno.DeleteThis@Mindset.net> wrote in message
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> Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.
>
> Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck. You can
> wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from school.
> Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.
>
> First tell them it was one of the kids.
>
> --Geno

....And you gonna tell me this is the joke again, and how I don't have the
sense of humor...Geez. You are really not taking well anyone not agreeing
with you (for others, we disagreed in another thread - "New Cats" and ever
since then Geno has become quite nasty to me).

What are you, Bob Brenchley?

Thanks for the advice but no thanks. Perhaps you'd like it if someone used
it on you one day.

Gee
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"Gee" <Gee RemoveThis @canttellya.com> wrote in message
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> "Gene Royer" <Siregeno RemoveThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
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>
> > Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.
> >
> > Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck. You
can
> > wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from school.
> > Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.
> >
> > First tell them it was one of the kids.
> >
> > --Geno
>
> ...And you gonna tell me this is the joke again, and how I don't have the
> sense of humor...Geez. You are really not taking well anyone not agreeing
> with you (for others, we disagreed in another thread - "New Cats" and ever
> since then Geno has become quite nasty to me).
>
> What are you, Bob Brenchley?
>
> Thanks for the advice but no thanks. Perhaps you'd like it if someone used
> it on you one day.
>
> Gee
>

It doesn't bother me that you disagree, but yes, it was a joke! You finally
got it!

And, in that respect, of course you realize it wasn't advice at all, don't
you? So, why are you acting like it was?

I don't know Mr Brenchley? Is he someone who disagreed with you, too? A
pox upon him; and may the Great Furry Godkitty leave a hairball under his
pillow.

--Geno<Cat owner and operator>Royer
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"B&S" <dontbother.com> wrote in message
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> Good luck, and bless you for making the effort to help the kitty. Not
> everyone would do that.

Thank you. Sadly that is so true. The driver who run over this girl didn;t
even stop. The driver who killed my QT kind of stopped but took off when
they saw me screaming in horror(I saw the whole incident).How can these
people sleep at night.I understand accidents can happen but to not even
stop and offer some help???

Ever since QT died I have been always stopping to check any animal found on
the road, and taking them to the vets/woods to rest in peace if they are
foxes/peageons. Death doesn;t scare me like it used to sonce QT died, and
I'd rather try and help the animal then let the stupid fear take over me.

>
> shelly

Thanks so much for the great reply. I have tried calling early this morning
and got the answering machine which stated it was a so and so company. I
found company site on the internet and somewhere on their site they
mentioned the office dog - and a cat... It was the girl I found. Their
address was also next to the road where she was killed so I knew it has to
be her.

So I went there just now. I told a sweet lady about what happened. Kitty was
only 1-2 years old, a local stray they found and took in. She belonged to
all in office and they were very sad but in a way happy to know what has
happened and that she didn;t suffer. I left them my number and ask them to
call me if they wanna talk, as I explained about my QT. She will be missed.

So thanks again.I didn't sleep very well worrying about how to tell them
this horrible news.

Gee
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"Gee" <Gee.DeleteThis@canttellya.com> wrote in message
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> "B&S" <dontbother.com> wrote in message
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>
> > Good luck, and bless you for making the effort to help the kitty. Not
> > everyone would do that.
>
> Thank you. Sadly that is so true. The driver who run over this girl didn;t
> even stop. The driver who killed my QT kind of stopped but took off when
> they saw me screaming in horror(I saw the whole incident).How can these
> people sleep at night.I understand accidents can happen but to not even
> stop and offer some help???
>
> Ever since QT died I have been always stopping to check any animal found
on
> the road, and taking them to the vets/woods to rest in peace if they are
> foxes/peageons. Death doesn;t scare me like it used to sonce QT died, and
> I'd rather try and help the animal then let the stupid fear take over me.
>
> >
> > shelly
>
> Thanks so much for the great reply. I have tried calling early this
morning
> and got the answering machine which stated it was a so and so company. I
> found company site on the internet and somewhere on their site they
> mentioned the office dog - and a cat... It was the girl I found. Their
> address was also next to the road where she was killed so I knew it has to
> be her.
>
> So I went there just now. I told a sweet lady about what happened. Kitty
was
> only 1-2 years old, a local stray they found and took in. She belonged to
> all in office and they were very sad but in a way happy to know what has
> happened and that she didn;t suffer. I left them my number and ask them to
> call me if they wanna talk, as I explained about my QT. She will be
missed.
>
> So thanks again.I didn't sleep very well worrying about how to tell them
> this horrible news.
>
> Gee
>

Why do you people allow your special friends to roam outside? Would you do
that with a small child? What kind of a parent would do that? It's hard to
blame a driver when the streets were made for cars and screen doors were
made for housecats.

I harbor stray cats outside in the yard, and occasionally I lose one to a
vehicle; but with them I have no choice because they are feral. However, my
special ones stay inside and are never allowed to go out where danger lurks.

I hope you learned something from that lesson.

--Geno< www.straighttalk.com >Royer
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"Gene Royer" <Siregeno.RemoveThis@Mindset.net> wrote in message
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> Why do you people allow your special friends to roam outside? Would you
do
> that with a small child? What kind of a parent would do that? It's hard
to
> blame a driver when the streets were made for cars and screen doors were
> made for housecats.
>
> I harbor stray cats outside in the yard, and occasionally I lose one to a
> vehicle; but with them I have no choice because they are feral. However,
my
> special ones stay inside and are never allowed to go out where danger
lurks.
>
> I hope you learned something from that lesson.

Geno you are jumping the gun as usual. If you check my posts over the past 5
YEARS you can see what I am about it's its certainly not allowing pets to
roam free. I made a cardinal mistake 5 years ago when my QT got run over and
yes that was a hard lesson to learn from, but I did, and have been talking
about my QT in newsgroups all this time so I can teach others not to make
the same mistake.

Some people will however let the cats out for various reasons, and some of
them can be valid. You are the fist one who has his reasons to allowing cats
to roam. It may not be the best solution but sometimes there is no other
option.

Gee

> --Geno< www.straighttalk.com >Royer
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"Gee" <Gee RemoveThis @canttellya.com> wrote in message
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> "Gene Royer" <Siregeno RemoveThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
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>
> > Why do you people allow your special friends to roam outside? Would you
> do
> > that with a small child? What kind of a parent would do that? It's
hard
> to
> > blame a driver when the streets were made for cars and screen doors were
> > made for housecats.
> >
> > I harbor stray cats outside in the yard, and occasionally I lose one to
a
> > vehicle; but with them I have no choice because they are feral.
However,
> my
> > special ones stay inside and are never allowed to go out where danger
> lurks.
> >
> > I hope you learned something from that lesson.
>
> Geno you are jumping the gun as usual. If you check my posts over the past
5
> YEARS you can see what I am about it's its certainly not allowing pets to
> roam free. I made a cardinal mistake 5 years ago when my QT got run over
and
> yes that was a hard lesson to learn from, but I did, and have been talking
> about my QT in newsgroups all this time so I can teach others not to make
> the same mistake.


FIVE YEARS AGO! For God's sake, woman...get over it!

--Geno<leaving in a snit but returning in a huff>royer


>
> Some people will however let the cats out for various reasons, and some of
> them can be valid. You are the fist one who has his reasons to allowing
cats
> to roam. It may not be the best solution but sometimes there is no other
> option.
>
> Gee
>
> > --Geno< www.straighttalk.com >Royer
>
>
>
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"Gene Royer" <Siregeno DeleteThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
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> > "Gene Royer" <Siregeno DeleteThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
> > news:108s9sb7vmu8ec3@corp.supernews.com...
> >
> > > Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.
> > >
> > > Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck. You
> can wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from
school.
> > > Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.
> > >
> > > First tell them it was one of the kids.
> > >
> > > --Geno
> >
> > ...And you gonna tell me this is the joke again, and how I don't have
the
> > sense of humor...Geez. You are really not taking well anyone not
agreeing
> > with you (for others, we disagreed in another thread - "New Cats" and
ever
> > since then Geno has become quite nasty to me).
> >
> > What are you, Bob Brenchley?
> >
> > Thanks for the advice but no thanks. Perhaps you'd like it if someone
used
> > it on you one day.
> >
> > Gee
> >
>
> It doesn't bother me that you disagree, but yes, it was a joke! You
finally got it!

Geno, what can I say, if you think this was a joke, and if you think this
was a time and place for a joke like this, then, well, you seriously need to
work on your people, as well as comedic skillz.

> And, in that respect, of course you realize it wasn't advice at all, don't
> you? So, why are you acting like it was?

I asked for advice, you replied with a solution. Maybe that's why?

> I don't know Mr Brenchley? Is he someone who disagreed with you, too?

MISTER (HA HA HA HA) Brenchley he he? Oh you just wait to meet him, you are
bound to. I won;t be speaking ill of the killfiled, but let's just say he
has stepped on many MANY toes. Just run a search on google groups and see
for yourself.

> A pox upon him;

No worries, he's been killfiled long time ago.

>and may the Great Furry Godkitty leave a hairball under his pillow.

Finally something funny! :) I would prefer that she leaves the hairball ON
his pillow tho :)

Gee

> --Geno<Cat owner and operator>Royer
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"Gee" <Gee RemoveThis @canttellya.com> wrote in message
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> "Gene Royer" <Siregeno RemoveThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
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> > > "Gene Royer" <Siregeno RemoveThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message
> > > news:108s9sb7vmu8ec3@corp.supernews.com...
> > >
> > > > Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.
> > > >
> > > > Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck.
You
> > can wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from
> school.
> > > > Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.
> > > >
> > > > First tell them it was one of the kids.
> > > >
> > > > --Geno
> > >
> > > ...And you gonna tell me this is the joke again, and how I don't have
> the
> > > sense of humor...Geez. You are really not taking well anyone not
> agreeing
> > > with you (for others, we disagreed in another thread - "New Cats" and
> ever
> > > since then Geno has become quite nasty to me).
> > >
> > > What are you, Bob Brenchley?
> > >
> > > Thanks for the advice but no thanks. Perhaps you'd like it if someone
> used
> > > it on you one day.
> > >
> > > Gee
> > >
> >
> > It doesn't bother me that you disagree, but yes, it was a joke! You
> finally got it!
>
> Geno, what can I say, if you think this was a joke, and if you think this
> was a time and place for a joke like this, then, well, you seriously need
to
> work on your people, as well as comedic skillz.

There is always time for levity. You take yourself and this open forum way
too seriously.

>
> > And, in that respect, of course you realize it wasn't advice at all,
don't
> > you? So, why are you acting like it was?
>
> I asked for advice, you replied with a solution. Maybe that's why?

No, you knew I was joking. You said so yourself. You're just too much of a
stuffed shirt to laugh--unless it is at Brenchley's expense below. (whoever
he is).

>
> > I don't know Mr Brenchley? Is he someone who disagreed with you, too?
>
> MISTER (HA HA HA HA) Brenchley he he? Oh you just wait to meet him, you
are
> bound to. I won;t be speaking ill of the killfiled, but let's just say he
> has stepped on many MANY toes. Just run a search on google groups and see
> for yourself.
>
> > A pox upon him;
>
> No worries, he's been killfiled long time ago.
>
> >and may the Great Furry Godkitty leave a hairball under his pillow.
>
> Finally something funny! :) I would prefer that she leaves the hairball ON
> his pillow tho :)
>

Everything I say is funny. You just have selective humo(u)r.

> Gee
>
> > --Geno<Cat owner and operator>Royer


So, you own a killfile, do you? How rude.

--Geno<leaving in a snit, but returning in a huff>Royer
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"Gene Royer" <Siregeno.TakeThisOut@Mindset.net> wrote in message
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> I made a cardinal mistake 5 years ago when my QT got run over
> and yes that was a hard lesson to learn from, but I did, and have been
talking
> > about my QT in newsgroups all this time so I can teach others not to
make
> > the same mistake.
>
> FIVE YEARS AGO! For God's sake, woman...get over it!

Oh so you ARE Bob Brenchley!!! Insensitive to the bone, heartless and
thoughtless.

How sad. I pity you.

Gee
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"Gene Royer" <Siregeno RemoveThis @Mindset.net> wrote in message

> > > > > Gee, I have the perfect answer; but you're not going to like it.
> > > > >
> > > > > Find out if they have children. If they do, then you're in luck.
> You
> > > can wait until it's time for the bus to bring the children home from
> > school.
> > > > > Then go ring their door bell and break the news to them easy.
> > > > >
> > > > > First tell them it was one of the kids.
> > > > >
> > > > > --Geno
> > > >
> > > > ...And you gonna tell me this is the joke again, and how I don't
have
> > the
> > > > sense of humor...Geez. You are really not taking well anyone not
> > agreeing
> > > > with you (for others, we disagreed in another thread - "New Cats"
and
> > ever
> > > > since then Geno has become quite nasty to me).
> > > >
> > > > What are you, Bob Brenchley?
> > > >
> > > > Thanks for the advice but no thanks. Perhaps you'd like it if
someone
> > used
> > > > it on you one day.
> > > >
> > > > Gee
> > > >
> > >
> > > It doesn't bother me that you disagree, but yes, it was a joke! You
> > finally got it!
> >
> > Geno, what can I say, if you think this was a joke, and if you think
this
> > was a time and place for a joke like this, then, well, you seriously
need
> to work on your people, as well as comedic skillz.
>
> There is always time for levity. You take yourself and this open forum
way
> too seriously.

And you take people in distress way too lightly and showing no
consideration. Your mother didn;t teach you to behave like this so why are
you.

> > > And, in that respect, of course you realize it wasn't advice at all,
> don't you? So, why are you acting like it was?
> >
> > I asked for advice, you replied with a solution. Maybe that's why?
>
> No, you knew I was joking. You said so yourself.

No I didn;t. I was BLATANTLY sarcastic in my comment and only you didn;t see
it. So no nobody BUT you thought it was a joke or funny.

> You're just too much of a stuffed shirt to laugh--unless it is at
Brenchley's expense below. (whoever he is).

Not at all. But if you think that telling somone their kid is dead is a
joke, then I'd rather be called a stuffed shirt then what people consider
you after this "joke".

> > > I don't know Mr Brenchley? Is he someone who disagreed with you, too?
> >
> > MISTER (HA HA HA HA) Brenchley he he? Oh you just wait to meet him, you
are bound to. I won;t be speaking ill of the killfiled, but let's just say
he
> > has stepped on many MANY toes. Just run a search on google groups and
see for yourself.
> >
> > > A pox upon him;
> >
> > No worries, he's been killfiled long time ago.
> >
> > >and may the Great Furry Godkitty leave a hairball under his pillow.
> >
> > Finally something funny! :) I would prefer that she leaves the hairball
ON
> > his pillow tho :)
> >
>
> Everything I say is funny. You just have selective humo(u)r.

I thinks Brits are famous for having selective humor, but sorry, the
original comment just wasn;t it. Comedians are only funny if they make
others laugh. They are not funny if only THEY think they're funny.

> So, you own a killfile, do you? How rude.

I'm guessing this is your selective humor thing.

> --Geno<leaving in a snit, but returning in a huff>Royer
>
>
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"Amy Gray" <JudgeAmyGrayNOSPAM DeleteThis @hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> The first question I would have to ask is are you sure it is the same
> cat? Around here we have lots of cats/dogs/squirrels/rabbits/etc.
> run over by various vehicles on the road and in many of those
> cases I would be hard pressed to identify what it was much
> less that it was a cat/dog/etc.

I know what you mean but as soon as I saw the picture I knew it was the cat
I found. We havent got many Torties around here, and she was stunnigly
beautiful and had a distinguished colar.So yeah I just knew when I saw the
pic.

> I wonder if the better route might be to not mention anything and
> hope beyond hope that maybe (agaisnt all odds) their cat is
> still alive somewhere and will come home someday.

Oh no! I could never let them stew. I remember how upset I was when my QT
got run over. In all my sadness and depression I was still very glad that at
least I knew what happened. Not knowing would;ve pushed me to the edge with
worry.

> I'd be very hesitant to identify it as their cat unless
> there is something definitive like a microchip/collar/id tag/
> or other difinitive indication.

Yeah she had a collar but no ID.

> BTW, arond here the driver is required to stop.

Where are you? I;m in London, UK, and as far as I know drivers are only
required to stop and report if they hit a dog.

But anyways, to update on what happened:

I have tried calling the owner early this morning
and got the answering machine which stated it was a so and so company. I
found company website and somewhere on their site they
mentioned the office dog - and a cat... It was the girl I found. Their
address was also next to the road where she was killed so I knew it has to
be her.

So I went there this afternoon. I told a sweet lady about what happened.
Kitty was
only 1-2 years old, a local stray they found and took in. She belonged to
all in office and they were very sad but in a way happy to know what has
happened and that she didn;t suffer. I left them my number and ask them to
call me if they wanna talk, as I explained about my QT. She will be missed.

I didn't sleep very well worrying about how to tell them this horrible news.
But I could never have kept them worrying.

Gee
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